One of my coaches used to say, ‘Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.’
Why don’t we like to change? Most of us want a happier, more exciting and luxurious life than we are currently experiencing. This could mean more money, better relationships, or improved health. We want everything but few of us actually take the steps to achieve it.
Many of us have a lot of limiting beliefs about change: Change is hard, it takes too long, it is uncomfortable, it is frightening, or I cant do it, I don’t have the skills, I am not good enough or I will do it later.
When we have these beliefs, we simply can’t and won’t change. We are locked into a ‘story’ of negativity around change that prevents us from ever taking full responsibility for our lives and actively going for what we want. If we choose to overcome these limiting beliefs, we see that none of them are actually true. Change can happen very quickly if we are very determined to achieve our goals and become a new person.
Change is uncomfortable and that is the real reason why we resist it. We are comfortable in what we know…our comfort zone. It is scary to go out and do the unfamiliar. But in order to go from where we are to where we want to be, we have to be willing to see what blocks us, which in and of itself can be uncomfortable. We also have to instill new habits and routines which can be uncomfortable as well.
But we can only change when we are willing to make mistakes, face the unknown , confront our fears and limitations and overcome our challenges. We have to be willing to give our best to reach our goal. For many of us, this is actually the most uncomfortable step and we resist to let go of our limiting beliefs although we know they don’t serve us anymore. There is no point in hanging on to pain, hurt and discomfort.
To embrace the new, you have to go through this uncomfortable and sometimes painful stage. We have to lose the ‘old’ us in order to recreate the ‘new’ us.
The good news is we all the potential to be successful and purposeful. It just takes lots of courage, determination and commitment to go through the process of change.
Having been through this process myself, I only know too well how uncomfortable and painful change can be. But what I gained and discovered after my transformation is truly awesome…I found my purpose.
When I take my clients through this uncomfortable process, I push and challenge them to face everything they have been resisting and repressing. I know how uncomfortable that process can be, so I give them all my support and encouragement
I see the process of change as:
Resistance, holding on, uncomfortable, confusion, transformation, integration and finally a new person.
While change is inherently uncomfortable, it also allows us to come fully alive! Do you have what it takes to go through the process of change and discover who you can really be?
